Rest, freedom, emotional intimacy
You get burned out.
You decide to go on a vacation to rest.
But how many times has it happened that you take time off to rest but end up using it as a space to introspect and plan your future?
Because you need this time to plan your next move.
If you’re lucky, you manage to enjoy a few things here and there.
But if you are somewhat like me, the moment you get a peaceful view or a relaxed setting on such vacations, you start thinking of taking your journal out to write your shit down and come up with a free flow of ideas you want to try next.
So far, I thought this was also rest in a way.
Then, I came across this piece:
|Rest is when you don’t associate your self-worth with what you have to do next. Whenever you’re thinking of something you have to do next, you are no longer resting. Rest is ultimately about doing things that have nothing to do with the furthering of your place in society. The article explains the two fronts of the mind- one that aimlessly wanders and the other which can focus on one thing. Both coexist with one another, just like light and dark. This explains why you can feel restless after some time in front of a still lake. Your sense of identity comes sooner or later in those peaceful moments.|
3 Things from Me this Week
|How to be angry without being consumed by it? |
Is it possible to express your anger from a place of compassion and love? In this piece, I summarize the insights from Vipassana to manage anger.
|Paradox of freedom|
There is one thing that I initially did not anticipate while pursuing freedom. It was discipline. It sounds counterintuitive but discipline is the key to unlocking freedom. Both need to coexist with one another.
|My personal trifecta that leads to tears of joy and love|
Tears are not just to express sadness. They also come with deep joy and overwhelming feelings of beauty, connection, and love as well. All those experiences fall under one of the 3 buckets.
I have struggled with forming deep bonds, friendships, or relationships for a long period of time. One of the biggest lessons I have learned in the past few years is the importance of vulnerability and courage to form such intimate bonds.
This tweet thread has some insights and a few questions you can discuss with your partner to kickstart vulnerable sharing.
Here are the questions for your ready reference:
- What is your best and worst memory from childhood?
- What did you get from your parents that you needed, and what do you feel like you missed?
- How do you like to be loved? (this will change regularly)
- When do you feel most confident and when do you feel most insecure?
- What is the greatest lesson you’ve learned in the past year?
- What’s something impactful that’s happened to you that you’ve never shared with anyone else?
That’s all from me this week!
Until next time